Can't God just waive a wand?

So, we've been here at our new jobs for a couple weeks now... 24 days to be exact.. but who's counting? You may be wondering how things are going... or you may not, but I'll tell you anyway. As a couple, we're enjoying the rural atmosphere and the opportunity to make new friends & get involved in a small community again. We believe we've found a church that we really like, and plan on joining. (We're headed to the Christmas party there tonight). We're checking out the local restaurants and have already found one or two that will be regular stops. We've gone to Montrose (Mont-rosse, like "gross" without the "g", emphasis on "Mont") where we ate at a great pub, did Christmas shopping and enjoyed a great mexican meal. Individually? Jeff is doing AWESOME.. he's reveling in his new position and has gotten TONS accomplished already, that had been let go/ignored for awhile. I have NO doubt that he's going to quickly become one of the most valuable people on the ranch. He's VERY busy with a lot of "desk work" at the moment as well, which he enjoys less, but that he's also glad he can just do and not be reliant on someone else to make decisions. He's got a lot of changes in mind for not only policies/procedures in the maintenance dept, but also in the horse program. So, that requires a lot of planning and typing and thinking. :) Me? Hmm... how to answer. I'm kind of up in the air at the moment. I'm tentatively "Head of Housekeeping", but that will not be decided for certain until the new General Manager of Hospitality arrives the first part of Jan. So, I'm working in that role for the moment, but it's hard to get too settled in when I know that things may change later. The bigger issue, is my place overall in the ranch... I've just come to the epiphany that my problem is that I haven't had to come into an established staff as the new person, in many years. Jeff and I have been hired to manage staff or supervise or whatever, and then staff was hired later, ever since we left Washington (and even before that for me). So, here I am, coming into a staff that is established, and NOT as the manager of their area. I don't really mind not being in charge - I just don't know HOW to not be in charge. So, I feel like I'm walking on egg shells trying to be considerate and not step on toes. But, it doesn't help that the owner was told, by one of my references, that I "like to be in charge" and other similar things... so every move I make or anything I say, is looked at by him as me trying to take over. Even when I'm just doing something that I was TOLD to do by someone else, he thinks I just decided to do it on my own. I've also discovered that, as nice as these owners are, they have the same way of dealing w/ staff that other very well-to-do people I've met, do. That is, they just want to tell you what they want, or what they think, and don't really want to hear your thoughts or reasons or whatever. Just nod and agree. And, anyone who knows me, knows how hard that is for me! So, when I asked to learn more humility, I guess I thought that God could just waive his wand and it would be easy. I HATE it when it actually takes work (like losing weight) and time and pain. I keep thinking about different people I've met or stories I've heard, about people who were very important in their own countries / professions, and then were either forcibly exiled or chose to re-locate, and ended up working "menial" jobs but with great attitudes. If they can do that... then what the heck is my problem? Pride.. that's my problem, and I know it. So begins my new schooling. Pray for me!